Sensitivity Is Not a Weakness. It’s an Early Warning System.

Sensitivity was never my weakness. It was my early warning system.

What I’ve come to understand is this: many women are being taught to override discernment in the name of professionalism. They are encouraged to open up in environments that are not actually safe, to adapt themselves to systems that are fundamentally misaligned, and to call that growth.

Learning how to cope can be wise. Learning how to stay in what is breaking you is not.

There is a difference between healing and self-erasure.
There is a difference between emotional intelligence and learning how to tolerate what your body and spirit are clearly resisting.

For the women who have been told they are too sensitive, I want to offer a reframe. Sensitivity is not fragility. It's information, perception and discernment.

When you feel exhausted, shut down, irritable, or numb, that is not a character flaw. It's data. When your nervous system is constantly on edge, it's not asking for better coping skills alone. It may be asking for a different environment, different rhythms, or a different definition of success altogether.

I am not anti-therapy. I am not anti-growth. I am not anti-support. I am anti-teaching women to betray themselves so they can survive systems that were never designed with their full humanity in mind.

The work I do now is rooted in a different question. Not “How do I fix myself to fit?” but “What is my life asking me to pay attention to?”

Faith has taught me that discernment is not loud. It's steady. It shows up as unrest when something is off, and peace when something aligns, even if the aligned path is harder at first.

If you’ve been labeled too sensitive, pause before you accept that diagnosis. Ask instead what your sensitivity has been trying to protect. Ask what it has noticed long before your mind caught up.

Sometimes the most faithful thing you can do is stop learning how to cope and start listening.

If this resonates, I’m curious what you’ve noticed in your own leadership journey.